Validations

Just as the sitter (person receiving reading) during a private session has certain expectations during their one hour with me, I too have particular expectations as well. I expect that the energies/spirits touching in with me for the sitter will give lots of validation during the session. This lets the person receiving the communication (through me) from the other side to know it is valid. I want my client to KNOW they are hearing from whom ever is coming through. I don't want you walking away wondering...was that really my mom? I don't want someone thinking, well that sort of sounded like my dad, but I am not too sure. This doesn't mean that the occasional straggler that pops in for two minutes just long enough to throw out their name and disappear won't be less validating. The main family/friend connections that have passed away that you actually need to hear from (yes, they know who you NEED to hear from) will confirm their presence to you through me. How does this happen? It varies from reading to reading. Typically they will bring through names, dates of importance, (like birthday/death months) and how they passed from this life to the next. If it was an accident or natural death they will give up this information. Some spirits (as many of you know) can be very explicit about their deaths. These are great ways for them to confirm their presence. BUT my favorite are the random out of the ordinary validations that no one could possibly make up. For instance...
In one session I had a child coming through (she passed at the age of 5) and she was showing me frogs. Lots of frogs. Jumping frogs every which way! The mom who was having the session was so blown away that her daughter was bringing this up. Apparently her daughter was a frog fan in many big ways, and immediately after the child's funeral as people were leaving the church or cemetery lot there were hundreds of frogs blocking the road so no one could pass without taking notice of the frogs. (also not really a "froggy" area) This child was validating to mom that she had a little hand in that stunt on the day of her funeral. It turned out the incident did give a lot of the family members some sort of peace. Like she was letting them know she was okay! By bringing this up to her mom during the session (actually the beginning) this helped mom KNOW she was receiving communication from her child. I remember another time I had a woman that came to meet with me and right away her dad was coming through. He wanted her to know that he had been keeping an eye on her from day to day. She seemed pleased with hearing this news but not convinced so I asked him to show me some of the events or happenings in the last few days of her life. (she didn't know I was asking him)
I said he is showing me blueberry muffins. Her mouth dropped and she said...I just baked some this morning. She admitted that she doesn't even like to bake, but something had got into her. Come to think of it.....she shared that her dad LOVED blueberry muffins. He ate them often, and she would bake them for him because she loved her dad so much. Then he showed me tires. I was seeing this whole scene with tires being changed. Turns out, that the day before she made the long drive to come see me...she had new tires put on her vehicle. She now believed for sure that dad truly was around her in daily life. Sometimes the biggest and most important validations can come from the little things that they "validate" about our CURRENT life. This is how they prove that they can keep a watchful eye as they choose to still be part of our lives in some way.
Another way the spirit world will validate they are still part of our world is during a session they will bring up a name to their loved one of a living person, BUT they didn't know this individual while they were living. For instance if "Jenny" meets with me and her sister has been passed on for a few years, and she (spirit) brings up the name "Henry" and it turns out she didn't know him in her life, but "Jenny" is now engaged to be married to "Henry" she is letting her sister know that she well aware of her current circumstance. This is a wonderful way for them assure their loved ones of their presence.
Many of you have said...well she or he didn't that person. I always say...well they do now! The heavenly realms have no limitations or boundaries as we do. Their supply of information is limitless. Whether they choose to share that information is entirely up to them!
Until next time...
Love and light,
Chantal

The Spirit World

I was anonymously asked the following questions:

Anonymous said...Can you explain to us what our loved ones do in the spirit world, are they always with us? or at some point do they move on?

I will answer to the best of my personal knowledge as a spirit medium and share what I've learned about life "here" and "there" throughout my own journey. I will share with you what I can personally vouch for, meaning not what I've read in a book or any other outside source.
I don't believe that I know everything about the "other side" because every day I learn something new in regards to my work regarding the afterlife. If you can imagine someone saying that the earth plane and all the people living in its realms only did this, that and the other...there would always be room for argument. The possibilities here on earth are endless as they are in the heavenly realms. The main difference between our world and the next is that there are NO limits or boundaries in the spiritual realm for those that are passed on. The spirit world is not limited by time and space. Every thing is immediate. Moving from point A to point B is instantaneous where as we (in human form) need to get in a car, train, plane etc. to travel any real distance. Spirit has the best of both worlds. They can easily move through the door between the spiritual world and our earthly world. It's like a revolving door for them, but for us living in the flesh it isn't as easy. Of course as a medium it is easier, but I do not have full access to the spiritual realm. I can only experience what I am shown secondhand. Yes, I have knowledge of what goes on in the hereafter and even seen little glimpses, but again it is given to me via a spirit. It's not like I close my eyes and walk through the revolving door and hang out in heaven while I chat with loved ones. I wish!
So what do they do? Well they seem like they continue on living, but in a different form. For one thing they are without a body. Their now made up of strictly god energy or a light form. Keep in mind I am speaking about a spirit that has gone into the light verses a ghost that is still earth bound. That is a whole other story....
I recently had a session with a woman and her daughter was coming through (adult child) that had passed on after fighting a long illness. The daughter was insistent on showing me this whole scene with what looked like an animal day care. I explained this to the woman and she validated that her daughter was enamored with animals and constantly brought home strays through out her life. Apparently her daughter was now spending her time with animals in the spirit world. When you are alive your spirit is the life force of your soul. Another way of looking at is the spirit is what makes up our personality. When we die we don't lose our personality so it made complete sense to this woman that her daughter was still taking care of animals. My point is your heaven is whatever you want it to be, and you can change it whenever you want as well. There are NO limits. If you want a mansion, then you have one. If you want to hang out at the golf course all day then you do. If you want to be in the presence of Jesus then you are. It's a reality of your wildest dreams!
Besides having fun they also continue to grow and learn while on the other side. For instance if someone had a life where they couldn't trust others and was always slow to forgive then his or her guides in heaven will help that individual soul work through those issues. It seems that we never stop learning or growing. I've come in contact with thousands of spirits that validated to their living loved ones how they have progressed as a soul. Part of the reason is they can see things from a different aspect or light. Again having the best of both worlds is a benefit. Addressing the question of whether our crossed over loved ones are always with us is NO. They do have a life to live, but in another way and in another form. Although they do spend time touching in, guiding, protecting loved ones here. Some will spend more time than others. It truly depends on the situation. It depends on how or why the person died and it also matters who they left behind and the depth of grief their loved one is left with here on earth. I like to compare it to moving away from loved ones. If you and your family move to a new place without any family or friends near by you'll find yourself keeping long distance communication constant. You miss the people you left behind so much that you call, write, (nowadays text) and even try to visit frequently. But over time you make new friends and start a brand new life that doesn't allow for as much communication. This natural progression of change and personal growth means less time spent visiting with those you moved away from earlier. You still touch base and your connection never dies it simply changes. Death of a loved one works the same way. In the beginning they touch in all the time as they get used to being without a body. They also focus energy on helping loved ones left behind get through the grief and loss. As time goes on and healing takes place they will pull away little by little. This is good for the living and the spirit. One thing I know for sure when it is our time to physically die and pass from this world to the next, our loved ones are there to greet us with open arms to show us the way into the next life. Death is a rebirth back into our natural form of spirit!
Tomorrow I will touch on what happens to the spirit right after death occurs and whether that spirit moves into the light or chooses to stay in darkness...
Peace.
Chantal

Letting Go....

Letting go...easier said than done. To let go of someone you love is painful regardless of the situation. I think the term "having your heart ripped out" was first said from the mouth of an individual that had to let go of someone they held precious to their heart. I don't know for sure, but that is my guess! When a family member or dear friend is leaving this world and preparing for the heavenly realms it is often that the loved ones being "left behind" need to nudge or help that individual cross over. Encouraging someone that you love so dearly, a special someone you can't imagine your life without, that it is safe and OK to let go of this world is the most SELFLESS and loving act one can do for another.
It was 2 yrs. ago this week that my paternal grandma passed from this life into the next one. I was fortunate enough to be with her when she left this world and moved into the afterlife to be reunited with my grandpa (they were together 55 yrs) and many other family members including my mom. My dad, his sister, and my aunt's daughter were also present as grandma made her transition. My cousin (around the same age as me) had never watched somebody physically die. I say physically, because I don't believe we ever truly die. We move from a physical embodiment to a spiritual one. Anyway, like I said she had never experienced such a happening and she shared a close relationship with our grandma. I have to admit while I was sitting there I sort of felt like a pro as did my father because just a year prior we held my own mother's hand as she crossed over from this life to the next one. Our hearts were definitely heavy with sadness. He was losing his mom shortly after losing his wife, but we knew exactly what to expect on a physical level. We sat there giving my aunt and her daughter the play by play. We explained everything from the raspy breathing to the breaths that are held for short intervals which ultimately lead up to the body shutting down completely. My aunt and my grandma were best friends and she stood by grandma every step of the way. Not just in the end, but for years, months, weeks and days leading up to her passing. My grandma was able to take "nine lives" and multiply it by three without batting an eyelash and my aunt was with her every step of the way! I honestly thought gran might live forever because she continuously surprised the doctors and her family. My aunt was having a terrible time emotionally letting go of her mom. Besides being her daughter and best friend she was her caretaker, and when one has such a responsibility on their shoulders it is extremely tough to let that person go. (it doesn't help when someone has more lives than a cat)
But the time had come to let go. We told her (dad and I) that she needed to tell Grandma it was ok to let go. My grams needed that permission, because she was holding on just as much as her daughter was only her body was failing quickly. My aunt whispered to her mom that it was ok to go be with "daddy" (that is what grams called grandpa) and within in minutes, probably less than 5 minutes my grandma drew her last breath. The amazing thing that happened right at the moment her soul left her body, my cousin sitting to my right JUMPED out of her seat and started repeating at the top of her voice "I felt her leave"! "I just felt my grandma leave her body"!(This was repeated approx. 15 times with total shock in her eyes) She was hysterical, and it was awesome! She got to experience first hand that the body does have a spirit and that it does leave the body. You might think..well of course it does. Guess what? She didn't believe in such things. She had questioned God and spirit all her life and it was at the moment of our grandma's passing that she knew there was life after death. Of course if you knew my grandma you might think to yourself, "yeah, she always had to have the last word"! :)
Even though we had to let go of her physically we all hold many good memories, and the love we each shared with her close to our hearts.
Love you gramma and miss you bunches!!!

Hearts and Tears

My mom always told me that I wear my heart on my sleeve. To tell the truth I also wear it on my face and more than likely you can hear it my voice. I am a down right sucker for a sad story. I always wanted to grow up and become a child social worker, especially since I didn't think doing readings was a feasible day job. She told me I would struggle emotionally with social work because I would want to bring home every single misplaced child that crossed my path, and that I would be absolutely miserable. Of course I told her she was crazy, but I know she was right. Yet 90% of the people I come in contact with on a daily basis have a sad story. Some of them are similar, but many are very unique. The moment I think "I've heard it all" so to speak another story comes along that brings me to my knees. It is those stories, those true life events that movies are made and seen on Lifetime television that I manage to come in contact with regularly. In recent past I spoke with a mother who lost both of her children simutaneously. Was this the first time I had this situation cross my path? No. Will it be the last time? I hope so, but I doubt it. I spent most of the session fighting back tears. I could literally feel her pain. It's as if I take it on physically, and sometimes that feeling is hard to shake. You would think after all these years that I would become numb to such things, but I do not. I believe the reason for this is because if I became numb to such feelings I would lose my compassion. True compassion is attempting to put your self in another person's shoes. After this particular session I was left with mixed feelings. Usually I can go about my day without a batting an eye, but not this day. I was feeling good on one hand because this mother was given such a beautiful gift to receive validations and communication from her children, but I'm also left feeling empty because I can't fix her pain. There aren't enough bandages in the world to heal her wounds. The only thing I can offer her or anyone in grief is the truth that life goes on beyond this earthly plane and also validation of that truth by allowing loved ones in spirit to come through and confirm their liveliness in spirit form. It is my belief that when one is able to have this proved to them through a medium then the grief/healing process will probably be a little bit easier to move through. I will continue to wear my heart on my sleeve for the rest of my life, because you can't teach an old dog new tricks. (plus i really have this "thing" for hearts :) I will choose over and over again to fall to my knees and fight back tears for the rest of my life doing God's work as long as it means giving someone hope and belief that life does continue beyond this world and proving that death does not exist.....there is only transformation.
p.s. sometimes i just let the tears flow and cry right along with my client...another reason being a government social worker wouldn't have been a good choice. ;)
Peace and Love,
Chantal