Going Within

Regardless of who you are if you've ever experienced a one hour session with me then you know I don't allow any questions until the end of the session. The main reason I keep this rule of thumb is simply because I don't want the "sitter" leading me in any certain direction. I want to take you on a journey (with spirit) of realization and validation. Usually by the time we reach the end of the session most of the questions have already been answered. The reason for this is because your family and friends in spirit know exactly what is on your mind and in your heart. As I've mentioned before they (spirit) always have the best of both worlds which is why they know so dang much!! :) I go into a reading with an open mind and heart every time as I know each person I speak with is unique as is their life circumstances. The only similarity that I do come across often is self doubt, and a deep need to KNOW the exact way something will play out. This doesn't mean that every one I speak with is in need of answers for what is coming up in life, as many people just need the confirmation that their loved ones are alive and well in spirit and that they're still in some way connected to their life. I call these visit sessions. It's like going to a family reunion! In all sessions the sitter will connect with loved ones, but often they are being given guidance for their life path. Spirit often shows me the fork in the road. If you go this way then this will occur and if you go the other way then this will happen. (of course they always heavily validate the current course so that we know we're on the right track ;)
Many years ago I was told by a mentor to be careful in not leading or misleading someone in any direction, that they need to take the information spirit shares and make their own conclusions and more importantly decisions. This is hard to do sometimes as many people want to hear whatever they WANT to hear. It is also hard for a lot of people to swallow the truth,BUT as a go between for this world and the next it is my job to pass on the messages with complete honesty, clarity, and compassion. At the same time I have to be careful to not interfere. (yes, its like walking a tight rope some days!) There are many many times Monday thru Friday that I want to yell through the phone, "Stop what you are doing and do exactly as I say and everything will be peachy again". Unfortunately no one really learns anything if they are told how to think and how to act. So I give them the fork in the road and my favorite follow up question is....Well, which road am I going to take? hahahaha. Of course I am truthful with what I am shown, but the gift in all of it is you get to choose via the gift of free will! I am constantly receiving emails and calls with phrases like I should of listened and not taken that path, or you were right on and everything you told me came to pass. I don't believe in shoulda coulda or woulda. (throw em all out the window..please :) The bottom line is we learn from all of our experiences and sometimes we need to fall on our faces a few times before we find our balance in life. The biggest gift you can give yourself when you are faced with decisions is to go within. You have an inner voice. You actually listen to it all the time without realizing it. It is the part of you that says "make that dr. appt., turn right instead of left, don't eat that, call your mom, visit your neighbor, etc.
If something doesn't feel right then it probably isn't right. Your inner spirit is your own personal compass. Check in with yourself at least once a day. You don't have to meditate like the Tibetans in order to get the answers you desire. Releasing self doubt and touching in with your divine self will lead you to the answers you seek. If you build a relationship with your authentic self then the guidance you seek is always at hand. I remember one time I was traveling to do a house party about 8 yrs ago, and I suddenly felt the need to turn around and go home. I tried to brush it off, but the feeling got stronger the further I went down the highway. Finally I turned the car around and went home. I wasn't happy about this at all. I didn't want to let the hostess down, and it was like taking a week off with no pay. How could I tell people to follow their gut instinct and completely ignore my own? Needless to say the next morning I found out that a semi crashed which caused a major car pile up on the highway that I was on that day, and the timing would have put me in the middle of the accident!
Make it a point to connect with your inner self. Go within. The answers you seek are available to you, and if you don't get the answer then you apparently weren't meant to know.
A wonderful book and tool for connecting with your inner self/higher self, guides, and angels is
Divine Guidance by Doreen Virtue. Check it out!
Love and light,
Chantal

Taboo

If you've ever experienced losing someone you love then you are aware of the grief that follows. Unfortunately in many instances families and close friends fall into a pattern of not bringing up the individual that has passed on, especially to the person/people that were most affected by the death. This seems to be an automatic defense mechanism to prevent any further emotional stress. If we don't talk about the elephant in the room then the elephant doesn't exist. Unfortunately this couldn't be further from the truth. This doesn't happen because we have forgotten or stopped grieving. It happens because their is such a fear that by talking about the person that crossed over we will or those we love will be sent back into the throws of raw grief. Sadly we as humans are often not comfortable with another person's pain. We don't know what to do with it. If you lost your child, and mine is alive and well, how can I help you? I obviously can't bring your child back. If I talk to you about your child then you will probably cry and break down in a way that I can't fix or make better, which will then lead to me feeling guilty for hurting you. We are programed to fix, fix, fix! Regrettably no one has ever figured out how to heal another man's emotional heartbreak, and because of this we push that pain right under the rug. Again we do this as a way of protection and love for those grieving. Sadly we are causing more damage by making the deceased a taboo subject. It is crucial for the grieving to feel safe enough to reach out and express their feelings. At times the conversation may be related to the actual death, but mostly they want to reminisce. Such as, do you remember how beautiful mom's flowers were? Or, Didn't my dad have the most infectious laugh? The people left behind need to know and feel their loved one won't be forgotten. Often an individual in grief has a deep fear that their loved one has moved on so far away from them that their spiritual/emotional connection will be severed. If the supporting people around them don't make it comfortable for any type of expression ( including anger, bargaining, depression,etc.) then their fear is being fed. We can't band aid the pain, but we can listen with a compassionate heart. We can safely bring up the individual that crossed over in our conversations. I know for me personally when my mom passed from cancer, I found it to be extremely healing to be able to bring her up without people acting uncomfortable. If a person in grief is forced into a corner to deal with the hurt on their own then their grief process will take much longer to move through. This doesn't mean that we should obsess over their mention, but find a happy medium. The next time you are in a place of support for someone in grief don't allow the elephant through the front door. The only guests should be sympathy, empathy, love, and compassion. :)
Love and light,
Chantal